What To Do If You're A Man With Ejaculation Problems
Or Your Husband Can't Ejaculate During Intercourse
Don't Worry! Help Is At Hand!
Whether you have trouble reaching orgasm during sex or masturbation, we know that delayed ejaculation can put incredible strain on your relationship and make you feel less than great in bed! But no man needs to suffer the effects of delayed ejaculation a moment longer, since it is easily curable, quickly, simply and cheaply!
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Delayed Ejaculation: "I can't
As one woman emailed: "My husband can't ejaculate during sex, it takes him ages to come. In fact, although we have sex every day, he will only reach orgasm once in those three days, and even then it takes him a long time to come. Is this normal, and even if he says he's enjoying it, can I really believe him? I want sex to end in pleasure for us both, and I always thought that meant that he needed to ejaculate inside me when we have sex, but he can't come in my vagina now.....at least not without thrusting for so long that I start to get sore. What can we do about this? And is he really enjoying sex?"
This is what's known as delayed ejaculation, and it affects about one man in ten at any one time, husbands, boyfriends and partners alike, and can cause both a man and his female partner a lot of anxiety and stress. Even though effective communication between spouses and partners can help reduce the tension this causes, you may also need to follow a series of exercises which help you to relax and come to terms with what is happening, then allow you to work together on his delayed ejaculation.
Advice For Women
Whose husbands can't ejaculate during sex (sexual intercourse)
If your boyfriend or husband is as stressed as you are by this, it may come as a great relief to him when you suggest a discussion. Although men don't often spontaneously talk about their feelings, when they are given the chance, they very often find that it is a great relief to be able to do so. In this case there are several issues to work through - first off, is your partner actually ejaculating normally? If his semen is moving back into his bladder it is called a retrograde ejaculation, and it is different to delayed ejaculation.
Unfortunately, retarded ejaculation can test a relationship by bringing up issues that both partners would prefer to leave hidden. For one thing, retarded ejaculation may mean that your boyfriend or partner is distrustful, resentful, or angry with you (or women in general). Being unable to come during sex may indicate a fear of losing control, or may reveal another emotional issue.
Essentially, "holding on" may feel safer to your husband than allowing himself to fall into the void of orgasm, a time when a man inevitably loses some of his personal boundaries and becomes merged, to however slight a degree, with his sexual partner. In essence, the question is whether a man with ejaculation problems wishes to feel the level of intimacy and closeness that an ejaculation inside a woman's body can provide, or whether he feels safer maintaining a distance, physically and emotionally, which is further away than the sheer intimacy of ejaculation in the vagina would provide.
Furthermore, many women do not appreciate long periods of vaginal thrusting from their husband, no matter how much they may love him. Sex is about the emotional connection, the closeness, the pleasure of feeling him inside her - and perhaps having an orgasm - not about long periods of hard thrusting which make her sore!
And a woman may feel inadequate if their partner does not come during sex, and they may lose some self-esteem as feelings of sexual inadequacy begin to develop. The best way for a woman to deal with this is to grasp the idea that this is not actually about her; it is all about the man's capacity to share sexual intimacy and closeness without feeling threatened.
A sense of shared time, physical proximity and closeness before sex (penetration) starts may help here: and clear open communication is essential - he needs to know that thrusting which goes on for too long can be painful, irritating and unfulfilling. If he simply can't come in any other way, you may need to take breaks and be creative about sex. If sexual counseling or therapy is required, see The American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists and The American Board of Sexology.