Treatment For Retarded Ejaculation |
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Treatment for retarded ejaculationTo go to the treatment for retarded ejaculation (dealyed ejaculation), follow this link. Two factors tend to promote and maintain retarded ejaculation: vigorous and idiosyncratic masturbation patterns and a big gap between a man's inner world of erotic imagery and the actual reality of his sexual life with his partner. Bringing his masturbatory fantasies into the open will help to relieve guilt and aids honest communication between the couple: if they can incorporate these fantasies into their sex life, this is likely to be helpful in increasing the man's arousal and aiding ejaculation. There are other simple techniques which can help a man in this situation - even something as simple as switching hands during masturbation, for example, will increase his awareness of the way in which he masturbates and how difficult he may be making it for himself to attain orgasm and ejaculation. If his other hand can't bring him to climax, no wonder his partner couldn't do it either! There is much more information on the subject of idiosyncratic masturbation here. There are many therapies which help overcome retarded ejaculation. One starting point is to examine the inhibitions and fears which may lie behind the problem and to develop sexual situations and techniques to overcome them. Another good strategy is for the man to ask his partner for increased intimacy and eroticism. Cognitive-behavioral strategies involve a three-part combination: (1) forming a connected and close intimate sexual team, (2) enjoying comfort with sexual pleasuring, and (3) increasing the level of erotic stimulation. 1 If a man and his partner form an intimate team, the degree of performance pressure which the man feels will be a lot lower. Helping each other to enjoy pleasure is important in generating the increased level of intimacy that can overcome inhibition and a sense of separateness 2. An erection does not mean a man is ready for intercourse. A man may need to be more aroused. A man needs to understand that he can enjoy sexual pleasure and gradually increasing arousal, and ejaculation is the expected end point of arousal. The more direct the man can be about requesting stimulation, and the more he can enjoy erotic feelings, the more confident he will be of his ability to be sexual and the more likely he is to enjoy high levels of arousal that ill take him to orgasm. The need to be selfish, to seek out his on pleasure, is a key factor in recovering his orgasmic capacity. 3. There are many ways of getting greater stimulation and greater arousal: enjoying sexual fantasies during partner sex, enjoying stimulation to the tests and perineum, anus or nipples are just some of these. It's up to each man to discover what in particular turns him on and triggers his orgasm - but there will be some individual orgasm triggers which work well for him, just as they do for everyone. Finally, a man who is hoping to overcome retarded ejaculation should not initiate sexual intercourse until he's very aroused. Fantasies can be an effective way of heightening arousal. It's important for each partner to ask themselves what's at risk if the man changes the way he responds during sex. There will certainly be some consequences if the symptoms of retarded ejaculation disappear, though what they might be will be different from couple to couple. For example, the woman might wonder if the man will search out new sexual experiences with other women; the women might wonder if he will find her as desirable as he does now; and so on. These points, and others like them, can be very enlightening for a couple to discuss as they work through these issues. When treating retarded ejaculation, a couple need to look at their erotic life together. One of the biggest questions is what happens to the foundations of the relationship when they start to work on their sexual issues. If they have a boring sexual life, and an inhibited attitude to sexual experimentation, bringing some of heir hidden and dark sexual shadows into the light may make their sex lives more vibrant, flowing and exciting. Men with retarded ejaculation often show exaggerated concern for their partner as a way of hiding the things they fear. Changing the focus of attention from the couple's conflicts with each other onto each partner's own conflicts and fears can be very illuminating! It's exciting to discover new erotic worlds, but it can also be scary and lead to defensiveness, fear and guilt. A man overcoming retarded ejaculation should be aware of which of his own sexual fears have been sheltered by his sexual problems. A very effective way of getting to the bottom of a person's unmet or unexpressed wishes or desires is to have them imagine being completely self-centered in sex, with no need to think of the partner. What then would be an ideal sexual scenario? Lifelong or chronic delayed ejaculation is more common than most men realize. It's also different for each man who has it: a different combination of factors has caused it, a different approach to treatment will cure it. [ Delayed ejaculation - retarded ejaculation - how to ejaculate during sex ]
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