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Curing delayed ejaculation or male orgasmic disorder
Many studies have shown changes in brain chemistry - in serotonin levels, in fact - affect how quickly or slowly an ejaculation takes place. This implies that some men may actually have brain chemistry which predisposes them to ejaculate more slowly or quickly than average. (Though whether the change in brain chemistry is the cause or the effect of some other function remains open to speculation.) This of course opens the possibility of drug treatment for men who have had lifelong delayed ejaculation (male orgasmic disorder). At the moment, there are no drug treatments to cure male orgasmic disorder, but research continues. One area where drugs may play a part in delayed ejaculation is in causing the condition. There are many medications, and non-prescription drugs, including alcohol, which can cause ejaculatory problems. In addition, the speed with which men attain orgasm and ejaculate decreases with age. In the case of drugs which may cause delays in ejaculating or difficulties in attaining orgasm, there are often alternatives available. Sometimes low levels of testosterone are implicated in the condition: in such cases, a full hormonal profile and check up by a qualified and competent andrologist is indicated. Useful Treatments That May Cure Delayed EjaculationNo matter what the cause of this condition, the ultimate goal of any treatment must be a complete cure: to enable the man to ejaculate normally during intercourse - and preferably enjoy the sex that leads up this point! The treatment usually aims to encourage the man to relax his high level of control and increase the level of stimulation which he is receiving so that he can become more sexually aroused. Obviously if the cause of his delayed ejaculation is the fact that he is not aroused enough during sex, then giving him some way of becoming more aroused will help him to reach a level of arousal sufficient for him to ejaculate in his partner's vagina during sex. One treatment assumes that a man can work from his existing level of arousal, building on it by using techniques to increase his sexual arousal and desire. In essence, it's about finding ways to stimulate the man - with sexual fantasies and in the physical world - that work for him. This might include exercises designed to sexually arouse him by touching his partner, both sexually and non-sexually, exercises to help him relinquish his need for control, and techniques to desensitize him from whatever has become his accustomed method of gaining arousal. But all of this is based on what works for the man right now. If he can only ejaculate when his partner is, say, in another room, then that has to be the starting point for his progression towards healthy sex and normal ejaculation. The next step might be to have his partner in the room, but some distance away from the man as he stimulates himself. A series of additional steps is then put in place so that they end with the man reaching orgasm in the close presence of his partner, perhaps using the method where he is stimulated to near orgasm before he inserts his penis into her vagina to experience his ejaculation inside her. All of this takes place in what are thought of by the man concerned as ideal conditions for the exercises. He needs to be selfish as he goes through this process of retraining his sexual responses to cure his delayed ejaculation. He needs to be able to "take" sexually without being over-concerned about giving to his partner, and he must only undertake intercourse when he is aroused enough. The mere presence of his erection is not a sign that he is aroused enough! It's also helpful for a man to work through any feelings of guilt, hostility or anger towards his partner before he attempts a cure for his delayed ejaculation. Reframing can be an important part of the treatment program. This means that the man comes to acknowledge his lack of desire (for his partner, for intercourse) and lack of arousal. Many men with orgasmic difficulties think they should be more giving, but in reality it is probably the case that he is unable to take, and any treatment should work in encouraging the man to be more selfish during sex, to be more demanding, to ask for more stimulation of the right kind that will enable him to become more aroused, and to seek out his own pleasure. if the man can check his subjective sexual arousal he may understand that it is not high enough - even if he has a good erection - to allow him to ejaculate during sex. Many partners take their man's ejaculatory unresponsiveness as rejection; if she can come to see that he is trying "too hard" to have an orgasm for his partner, she is likely to be more tolerant and less demanding. There is much more information on the subject of idiosyncratic masturbation here. [ Delayed ejaculation - retarded ejaculation - how to ejaculate during sex ]
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