Sexual therapy for retarded ejaculation
There are ways of making treatment
for retarded ejaculation more effective.
To start with, men need to know
"what's at risk," that is, what are the consequences for both
him and her if his retarded ejaculation comes to an end? For example, the
woman may wonder what the man might do if he did not have the sexual
impediment of
retarded ejaculation. Dealing with questions such as these
is important, because it can promote the course of therapy.
When treating a sexual problem as complex as retarded ejaculation, you
simply can't get away from the fact that it's intimately bound up with the
relationship. One way of making a couple more sexually literate and
engaged with each other is to make their
sexual and erotic scripts more fluent, exciting and dynamic. This means
uncovering those parts of their sexual life that they hide, repress and
deny, thereby allowing them to develop a new sexual
profile and to discover each other's sexuality and see their deepest
sexual secrets in a new way. In men with retarded ejaculation, an exaggerated concern for the partner's
sexual pleasure
serves to hide the man's lack of courage about exploring his sexuality.
For many people, of course, there have been traumatic experiences in their
history which lead to an avoidance of intimacy or to a loss of access to
the sexual self.
In such cases, altering the focus from the couple's interpersonal conflicts
and looking instead at each
partner's intrapsychic sexual conflicts and fears is often a good way
forward.
It's an exciting process to discover one's own erotic world, but it often
produces defensive reactions, anxiety and sometimes guilt. It's at times
like these that we all need an emotional safety net. Even so, it's worth
going to these places, because they reveal so much more about ourselves: the key question here
is always - which of your sexual fears have been sheltered by your
partner's delayed ejaculation?
The "Ideal Sexual
Scenario" is an idea which can help elucidate the sexual aspirations,
fears, and desires of both partners, as well as the unlived, or
underlying sexual potential that's harder to get at through simple
questioning. Each partner takes it in turns to fantasize being completely egotistical
during sex, with absolutely no need to be considerate of their partner. This ideal scenario,
with great detail and descriptions of actions, can be enlightening for
both partners. (As can imagining what your partner's ideal sexual scenario
would be.) The Ideal Sexual Scenario is very helpful in the treatment of couples affected by
retarded ejaculation.
Treatment of retarded ejaculation
Lifelong retarded ejaculation is one of the
most challenging sexual disorders to understand. Even so, treatment offers
great hope of gaining normality and a newly enriched sexual life for both
partners. We know that both neurobiological and psychological factors
have a part to play in both the etiology and the course of retarded
ejaculation. However, it's far from clear why men differ so much in their
ejaculatory latency and their ability to ejaculate during intercourse. Only an integration of psychosocial and neurological research will
give us a better
understanding of this disorder.
Retarded ejaculation isn't nearly as difficult to cure as it might seem.
The treatment of retarded ejaculation needs to incorporate behavior
therapy, sex therapy and and any medical issues.
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